A brief guide to online dating, or How to turn online communication into a serious relationship
The attitude to dating through the Network is very ambiguous. Someone thinks that this is a waste of time, while others are celebrating a wedding with soul mates who were found via the Internet. Only one thing can be said with certainty: the popularity of dating sites is growing day by day. The explanation for this is simple: in this way you can communicate with people from any country, of any age and status, which means that you can significantly increase the chance of finding a person with similar interests and tastes.
Does online dating have a chance to develop into a strong relationship?
Surely, many have heard stories from acquaintances about how they found their partners or already spouses via the Internet. Moreover, this did not necessarily happen on special portals for finding a couple - someone “liked” a photo of a person they liked on a social network or started a correspondence in a messenger. The fact remains: people met online.
The Internet has firmly entered our lives: people work and relax here - so why not use it to find a life partner?
The effectiveness of online dating is confirmed by a number of experiments. For example, the study of the British psychologist Geoffrey Gavin. Volunteers who helped the scientist evaluate the effectiveness of online dating were young people aged 19 to 26 who were ready for a serious relationship. Their task was to register on a dating site in order to find a partner. At the end of the experiment, 72% of the participants continued close communication in real life, and some of them even married later.
Statistics show…
... that more than a third of the users of the World Wide Web have used the services of dating sites at least once. Every day, more than one and a half million people spend on such portals for 4 hours or more. At the same time, men and women are registered approximately equally on the sites.
Not only ordinary people, but even celebrities can confirm the effectiveness of online dating. For example, actor Danila Shevchenko found his wife - Ekaterina Petryanina - on a dating site and after 10 days made her an offer. Their wedding took place in St. Petersburg in 2014. And in 2012, Alexei Ryzhov, a member of the Disco Crash group, married the artist Irina Shumova. Their love story also began with an online dating.
What is the secret of the popularity of such online services? Why every year more and more people use this opportunity, preferring it to live communication?
Accessibility - no need to waste time attending any events, it is enough to have a gadget and Internet access.
It doesn't matter what time it is on the clock - you can get acquainted both day and night. It is easy to find a companion from another time zone: the Internet significantly expands the boundaries of dating.
You can not answer messages immediately - there is time to think about the answer, find an approach to the interlocutor.
Communication with several interlocutors at once is another plus.
Starting to chat online is much easier than in person - a great way out for shy natures.
You can immediately weed out unsuitable people by selecting them by age, profession, interests.
But it is worth considering the disadvantages of online dating:
the user profile does not always correspond to its owner. For example, a 45-year-old three times divorced lady can hide behind a photo of a young beauty. Of course, this is a completely harmless drawback, but who wants to waste time and be disappointed when they meet;
real communication is essential. Even after a long correspondence, relationships come to naught if you do not meet in real life. However, this minus is very conditional: even the most shy people, as a rule, decide to meet;
the risk of becoming an object of criminals - not all users are really looking for a partner, some are looking for victims to implement illegal schemes. This is perhaps the most significant disadvantage of network communication (however, no one is safe from crime in real life). Never transfer money to new online acquaintances, and before the first date, tell someone close where you are going to go and with whom, do not make appointments in deserted places, charge your phone and do not place high hopes on acquaintance in order to avoid disappointment. A certain amount of humor, elementary caution - and everything will work out!
Internet dating methods: pros and cons
We talked about the advantages and disadvantages of online communication in general. Now let's try to uncover the pros and cons of various options.
Dating websites
These services are naturally the most popular for online dating and communication. Their peculiarity is that the profile is compiled according to a pre-designed convenient template (in special columns you place information about the purpose of the acquaintance, the characteristics of your character and hobbies, expectations from acquaintance, etc.). Among the advantages of portals: the ability to raise the profile to the top, a huge selection of options, a filter system, automatic selection of a partner based on a well-thought-out compatibility algorithm. But there are also disadvantages: the number of profiles is too large, a lot of spam and advertising accounts, registration on some dating sites is paid.
Examples of specialized dating sites: mamba.ru, loveplanet.ru, linkyou.ru.
Social networks for dating
Another very popular type of online dating service. Here you can look for both friends for easy communication, and partners for romantic relationships. Some of these social networks have a certain "specialization": for example, they are intended for those who are not ready to go beyond flirting, or for single parents who dream of finding a soul mate. The pitfalls of such social networks are the same as those of dating sites - uncertainty in the interlocutor and the possibility of becoming a victim of scammers.
General social networks
These services do not have a specific thematic specialization. Through them, you can try to establish informal contact, "crossing" different social strata. On these services, people are more friendly than romantic, so it will not be easy to find a partner in this way. In addition, in recent years, fearing fraud and intrusive advertising, people are reluctant to add strangers as friends..
Social media examples: instagram.com.
Messengers
Instant messaging and file exchange is a huge plus of instant messengers, as well as the fact that they usually cover a global audience, not limited to one country. But at the same time, you can only communicate within the framework of this service. Yes, and making acquaintances in the messenger is not easy. Another disadvantage of such services is that it is impossible to know in advance the interests and often even the age and gender of the interlocutor. In a word, everything depends on a “happy accident”, and this is not the most reliable option for finding a partner.
Examples of popular free messengers: Skype, Viber, WhatsApp.
Chat Roulette
An interesting way to get acquainted: the program finds two random interlocutors with the "online" status and connects them. Communication takes place via video link. A feature and a certain advantage of the method (as well as a disadvantage) is the rule of the “great random”: it is not known who will become your interlocutor - the partner of your dreams or a dubious-looking individual with unusual hobbies, for example, an exhibitionist. And also, if you exit the chat-roulette and do not ask for the contacts of a new acquaintance, it is unlikely that you will be able to find him again. In general, to start a serious relationship, the option is so-so ...
Examples of chatroulettes: videochatru.com; chatki.com; chatrandom.com.
Whatever service is chosen to search for dating (for any purpose), you need to think first of all about creating an interesting profile that will attract the attention of other users and win them over.
Create a profile: increase the chances of success
A well-written profile is the key to success. The interlocutor does not see the other live, so he evaluates the questionnaire. Here are some helpful tips for creating an attractive profile:
- The photo. It's the first thing people notice, so it's essential that it's clear and shows your best side. You should not get carried away with Photoshop: heavily retouched photos will raise suspicions that you are hiding serious flaws.
- Traits. In the profile, you must indicate a list of traits that, in your opinion, are defining in your character. Feel free to write about unusual interests (for example, a love of sand painting), perhaps it is for them that a soul mate will find you.
- Цель знакомства.Someone is looking for a serious relationship through online dating, while someone wants easy flirting or friendly meetings. This is definitely worth pointing out.
- Positivity and honesty. You should not invent something that is not there, hide the presence of a relationship or a past marriage. But you also don’t need to complain about the feeling of loneliness and helplessness - people don’t like whiners. It is much better to focus on something positive, but not too much to embellish your character or lifestyle.
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- Adjust your profile periodically.Interests can change, as well as the purpose of dating. Do not forget to update your page, add relevant photos.
- Rating upgrade. On some sites, it is enough to visit your page at least once a day to rise above others in the lists. On others, “entering the top” will require investments, but in any case, this will increase the chances of a successful acquaintance.
How to get acquainted on the Internet: take note
There are several tricks that will not only help you find a suitable partner, but also protect you from scammers and other unpleasant individuals.
First, remember that your search for a partner will increase if you register on several sites at once. Select sites according to several important criteria: the number of registered users, the target audience, the thoroughness of the profile check to block unscrupulous users and deceivers.
Secondly, when communicating, touch on a variety of topics: it is not necessary to talk only about work and household chores. Non-standard conversations will allow you to better know the nature of the interlocutor and his tastes, habits.
Thirdly, it is better not to use your home or work email address for registration - they can be hacked, and this will create a lot of problems. Register a separate box.
Fourth, meet a new acquaintance no earlier than after a couple of weeks of communication. This way you will get to know each other better and it will be easier for you to communicate when you meet. If the user is alarming by his persistence or seems suspicious, you can safely write to the site administrators to check him. You should do the same if you are insulted or sent intimate photos or videos without your request.
Acquaintance through the Internet can be the beginning of a new life stage. Millions of users on many sites are looking for their soul mate, and many have already found it. To join the number of these lucky ones, you just need to choose the appropriate site and click on the "Register" button - and everything will work out!
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